This woman is very important to me, we spent a lot of time together over the years and before calling her my grandmother I remember calling her my best friend. The picture was taken on December 24th, my birthday and I remember choosing this crazy purple outfit because I wanted to standout and look the best. That’s exactly what happened; my mother told me that I was crazy for wearing all purple: purple socks, corduroy pants, a plastic necklace, and lastly a purple furry tank top. My grandmother Shirley told me it looked great and as long as I loved it, it was perfect. Any time I feel like something doesn’t look right I think of that moment with her and how she’s right, what other people think isn’t important. People would stare at us anytime we were together in public and at times it got a little hard not to notice the glares of disappointment on people’s faces. While I was growing up I didn’t see a difference between my grandmother and me until I was in the 5th grade and notice the different faces in my classes. I noticed all of the different shades from black to brown to yellow, to people with small eyes and people with big green eyes. I went up to my grandmother and stared at her big blue eyes and tried to understand why we were different colors. I also tried to figure out why people looked at me strangely when I brought my grandmother to school for performances and not even realizing that she was the only white person in the room. On my own I thought of what my grandmother said about my crazy purple outfit on my birthday and that if I love something or someone nothing else matters.
I remember walking into a store and a police officer went to my grandmother and asked if I was bothering her, she got so upset when he asked this question but I didn’t understand. The reason why he was asking was because there was a small black girl following a white woman around the store. We never talked about this incident, but slowly I realized that my grandmother telling me “it was perfect” on my birthday, was her way of saying we don’t have to be like everyone else, being different is alright. As long as I was comfortable with any situation or the people around me then I was doing the right thing for me. I didn’t realize how much this picture meant to me until right now writing this. My grandmother still lives in this same house with the same wooden table, ancient globe in the corner that I was never allowed to touch, or the Christmas decorations on the table that were put out every year before my birthday. Taking pictures with this woman was always difficult because she always wanted to be the one behind the camera either recording or just taking photos of every moment. Like the things in the background, nothing has changed between my grandmother and I. She still hates taking pictures and I still love being different and smile just as big when I see her during the holidays.